Blogging is ruining the careers of women.
And trust me, I’m not about to tell you it’s ruining careers because they put too much out there. It’s actually the complete opposite.
This blog is three-years-old this month. Happy birthday, Blog.
In the past three years, I have been given some amazing opportunities as a result of this little blog, but I’ve only truly made any sort of consistent money over the past 12 months (besides the occasional $500 here and there).
I was on ABC’s 20/20, I’ve traveled to very cool places, and I’ve worked with great brands. I now write for two totally awesome online magazines, Fistful of Talent and Curvy Girl Guide. It has also launched a speaking career for me, something I never saw coming.
This blog has put me on the map as someone who knows a thing or two about business, and many of you have reached out to me for career advice (something I gladly give, as helping people in their careers is my true passion).
I remember when I began blogging, and I thought,
This blog is going to make me rich and famous and I’ll be able to become a work-at-home mother. This blog is going to afford me more time with my family, all while doing something I love. Writing.
Looking back now, I had no idea that it would take on a life of its’ own, thus making me irrelevant if I wasn’t going to work each day, keeping up on all things Human Resources.
Do I regret starting a blog? No. Never.
Has it caused some serious damage to some of my personal relationships? Absolutely. It has absolutely offended people, and I have absolutely lost friends as a direct result of telling it like it is via public forum.
But that’s just it. This blog is honest.
The honesty and rawness of my over-sharing has made people come back to the site (and sometimes leave forever, but more than not, come back). Talking about everything from death, to wearing tampons, is what has ultimately afforded me awesome new adventures.
And since we’re being so honest, the honesty is what has resulted in additional income for my family.
Blogging destroys careers, when women aren’t smart about what they’re doing.
If you really want to put yourself on the map, you have to be honest in your writing. You have to open yourself up to criticism. You have to be raw. And a lot of bloggers? They aren’t willing to do it.
Let me tell you a little secret, if you think people want to read about your perfect life… you are sadly mistaken. People want to relate to you. And if they cannot relate to you, you will never make a dime.
According to Forbes, 18.9 million women write blogs. EIGHTEEN POINT NINE MILLION. And I am certain of these 18.9 million women, a lot of them are hoping to make some money blogging in order to live out that work-from-home dream. If they tell you they aren’t in it for the money, they are LYING to you.
I personally know exactly two women who make enough money to stay at home. TWO. I am not one of them. And I wouldn’t trade my day job, to do what they do at home, for the world.
It’s not a glamorous life. They are juggling multiple sites, constant criticism for sharing so much with the world, Skype calls with brands, being their own talent manager, and non-stop writing… all with a small child (or three) sitting on their lap.
Ladies, don’t quit your day jobs.
Blogging for money takes work. It takes a lot of work. It takes more work than your office job ever will. And it takes the ability to open yourself up and over-share all aspects of your life, which opens you up to the haters, something most people cannot emotionally handle. But in the words of my blogging mentor,
Having someone spew hate at you, just means you’ve made it.
If you think you’ll become the next Jenny Lawson or Brittany Gibbons, keep in mind that they both kept their day jobs until they made enough money to have the ability to stay at home. Heather Armstrong getting fired from her job, as a result of her honesty, is truly what launched her career as a blogger. All three of these women do more than just write on their personal blogs to earn what they’re earning today. And I’m 100% certain, that if they financially had to go back to work in an office one day, they are smart enough women to go find a day job before their household is in financial ruins.
So stop calling on successful bloggers, asking them for advice about making money doing this weird thing, refuse to take their advice about the amount of work that goes into it, and then complain about not having any money because you’ve already QUIT. YOUR. JOB.
That’s just stupid.
Not everyone is going to run a profitable blog. You probably won’t make it.
Chances are (and this hurts, but it’s true) you won’t make ANY money doing this. You’ll refuse to put the required effort into it.
Don’t ruin your career chasing this work-from-home dream, when you aren’t even doing it right in the first place.
What do you think? Am I being too harsh on those following a dream? Or do you also see women ruining their careers, and their family’s income, in order to become a work-from-home blogger?