Are you for realsies?

by Meredith on November 13, 2012

I was going to write about wanting to give my daughter a real pony (because she wants one, and she is my favorite child at this moment).

But this caught my eye this morning instead.

Why does anyone else think they get to weigh in on how this man should be spending his money?

It’s always like this in Toledo, Ohio. And maybe it’s like this other places as well. Everyone thinks they have a financial say in what others are doing. No one can ever just be truly happy for someone. When something totally awesome happens, we find the negative in it.

During the election, I had a girlfriend, who I considered a friend, tell me that the CEO at my company was just getting rich off the backs of his middle class employees. My brain broke. Are you kidding me? He is a good and honest man. He would literally give an employee the shirt off his back, and all of us who know him, know this to be true because we have seen it first hand. We also know the struggle he’s been through and how he worked so hard to pull us out of it over the past few years. Toledo, Ohio has struggled!

I haven’t spoke a word to that woman since, and I probably never will again (because Scorpios are like that).

Is it Seasonal Affective Disorder?

Or are we just a bunch of assholes these days?

Probably assholes.

I hope this attorney wins.

I tried out for the show, and the test was very difficult. Even if you scored a perfect score, you still had to meet with the producers and be chosen based on your personality. This means this man is smart and charismatic at the same time.

I wish him all the luck in the world. And if he chooses to spend his million on a rare baseball card collection, I could really give a shit (although I hope he stops by the dealership to spend his money on a new Denali). I’m just happy he made it. I’m happy he made it because he is from this area and something great has happened to someone from this area.

That’s how we are supposed to be towards our hometown homies. Duh.

{ 33 comments… read them below or add one }

Robin

This is how we’re supposed to be, regardless of who it is. Unfortunately, some of us overdose on Hateorade and can’t help spreading it around. :(

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Meredith

It’s like no one wants anyone to be financially successful anymore. Well, anyone but their own personal self.

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Cecilia

How do they know how much money that guy makes? Not that it matters, but there are lots of assumptions going on there.

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LL Liberty

So something great from the area is making it on who wants to be a millionaire? interesting story maybe but great…. it’s the kardashian dumbing down of america where greatness is measured by if you can get on TV

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Meredith

I don’t think it’s the Kardashian approach. The man is an attorney. Obviously, he has been educated. It’s great because they came to our city and we all stood in line for hours to audition, and he made it.

This comment? Is EXACTLY what I am talking about.

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LL Liberty

your right, he stood in line for hours and made it on a game show we should erect a statue in his honor, I hope the guy wins, but great accomlishment? it’s a mildly interesting human interest story but that’s about it, great things happen to people from your area all the time but if it doesn’t make it on televison it doesn’t really happen does it. it’s a reality show culture and everyone scraps for thier 15 minutes.

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Meredith

Thank you for solidifying my point. Again.

Haters gonna hate!

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LL Liberty

if some one doesn’t agree it’s a hater (way over used term)? thank you for making my point that it’s all a “me, me, me, look at me” i need to be seen culture. hopefully you’ll be on tv someday, everyone needs to accomplish something

Meredith

I already was on TV. LUCKY ME! On this personal blog that’s all about ME! YAY FOR ME!

Marcia

Just because he is an attorney does not mean he has money. It means he has more debt, bigger dreams, and is HUMAN just like you and I. He should go crazy spend some money on himself, and buy a nice big new car from Meredith!!!

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Michael

Well said. In response to “It’s always like this in Toledo, Ohio. And maybe it’s like this other places as well,” I haven’t heard this much personally in Cincinnati, but the financial recovery here has been fairly strong. On the other hand, I’m probably not in the circle of people in which this conversation would come up, so I may be unaware of the prevalence of this attitude. Anyway, you’re absolutely right. It also drives me crazy when people see a career path and automatically associate an income with it. He may be an environmental protection lawyer working for an NPO–but that’s not the point. I do believe in moral obligation of those with much to help those with less, but that loses all of its integrity when the giving hand is forced by others. If he does well and uses a lot of the money to help others, AWESOME! If he doesn’t, I’ll still assume he studied hard to get that money and wouldn’t blame him for spending every bit of it on the world’s largest pool of Jell-O.

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Jill

I’m so sick of people assuming things.

Attorney doesn’t always equal super rich either, I’m sure he could use the money just as much as the next guy.

Everyone catches the jealousy bug at some point. I’m guilty of it. Oh, so and so is moving into a big home, why can’t that be me. But instead of sulking and being jealous, just try to be happy for that person because you know what, if it was you in their shoes you’d want others to be happy for you.

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statia

I used to be SO jealous of others when they bought a home, and if it was a brand new mcmansion, forget it! But now, I’m a homeowner. I have a nice sized home, and honestly, I would never want a huge house, now that I’ve lived in one that I can barely figure out what to do with, or keep clean.

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Prisha

I worked for an attorney for a few years & they do not make what they use to. There are attorneys every block, on the Internet, coming out of law school hundreds at a time, working for next to nothing when you think about what they paid for law school. Not only that but the legal field has been hit hard! People are staying married, living in the same home but living separate lives because they can not afford to make it on their own, sell their homes & support their families. More & more people are leaning on public defenders because the courts are so bogged down that no one can afford $200+ an hr on waiting & working through the courts.
Maybe he will use the money to help out a family member that has been laid off for the last year or finally give his mom & dad their first new car because of all they went through to help him get where he is? No matter what, it’s not our business, but this is becoming the world we live in. I try hard to teach my children how to treat people but this just makes me sad.

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statia

I’m not saying this as a hate comment at all. The rich didn’t get rich by spending their money freely. The rich get richer. Most of them (I know there are silver spoon babies and all that) have worked very hard to get where they are and have saved and spent little. They deserve to spend their money however they choose. (I don’t understand the mentality that people with a lot of money SHOULD give it to those that don’t have it. People should want to give out of the goodness of their heart, not because they’re being looked at under a microscope).

That’s not to say that the lower or middle class don’t work hard either. I know that most of them do, and it’s really hard to get ahead when you don’t have much. We seem to struggle, because every time we save, it gets wiped out by something necessary. So much of the middle class relies on credit to live the upper class life. Here’s a tip: live within your means. Stop being so jealous of people who have more money than you do. I get it. It’s hard when you don’t have the money. But that doesn’t mean that the people that DO have to spend it by your rules. It’s probably one of the main things I hate about social media. Everyone is in everyone else’s business, telling them what to do. Which, I guess I just did too. Sorry. And I got all rambly and disjointed too.

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Michael

Since there isn’t a “Like” button, I’ll just have to write a comment. Your second paragraph is dead on.

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Mike Carroll

I’ll try and not politicize this. I have no problem with people who have money who earn more money because of their skills. This is one of those times. I have a real problem with people who try and demonize people who have money for having money. Just because someone has money they don’t have some kind of moral obligation to give it to a charity or pay more in taxes or give it to anyone in particular. I wonder if the people commenting on that thread give anything to charity.

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Tawny

Some attorneys make bank and others barely scrape by. What about the newbies who are strapped with college loans the size of sizable mortgage payments.

People should never make assumptions.

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jennifer

well said

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Justin

Well your first mistake was reading the comments on the Facebook page for a news station.

Those people are freaking bonkers.

I’d venture to guess most of them have been “ripped off” by an attorney who defended them in a DUI case.

“So WHAT if I had my headlights off at night and couldn’t pronounce my own name. I thought this was AMERICA.”

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Sylvia

haha! Love this!

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Missy

I hear ya. I’m so ANNOYED by these people who do nothing but whine because someone else has something they want. These are the same people who moan and cry about how much they hate Toledo, but they won’t get up off their asses and go do something. *grumble*

I’m cheering for the guy, I hope he wins it all! (Also, I hope I get called at some point. I passed the test, passed the interview, had an on camera interview with a producer, and got the “You’re in the contestant pool!” card. Seems like it would be a hoot!)

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Untypically Jia

At first I was thinking, “Wow, what a bunch of assholes,” and then my brain was like . . . Yeah we’ve totally done this before. One of my older cousins married rich and lived a very rich life while her own mother struggled very much and I spent a lot of hate energy just being angry with her. It’s just not worth it hating people so much. What’s the point?

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Sylvia

Some people are born smart, or beautiful, or with artistic talent, natural athletic ability, or a beautiful singing voice. Some aren’t. Life is not fair. There are no guarantees. Just because someone is gifted doesn’t ensure success. Hard work plays a huge part in success. Face it, the world can’t be like Lake Wobegon “where all the kids are above average.” There will always be winners, and those who came in second, third… or last.

When did we stop having heroes, and start hating on those who succeed?

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Jules

As a law student, I can tell you the job market is really, really difficult right now and most lawyers are saddled with a ton of student loan debt. Unless you are someone’s financial advisor and know the reality of their situation or you are personally the one living that reality, you get NO say. Oh, and people who live in poverty in America are still some of the richest people in the world. It is all relative.

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Deborah N

2 Things
One: I think this is what people have always been like – we just see it more now than ever before because of things like Social Media and Computers – you know places you can act like an ass because no one can see you!
Two: My mama always told me if you haven’t got anything nice to say, keep your mouth shut!

<3 U Meredith!

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Mackenzie

I hear this about doctors all the time. There was a doctor on survivor a couple seasons ago and he actually got voted off for this reason, cus obviously he didn’t need the money!!! Um, who the hell knows what his life is like. He’s probably not broke, but he may not be rocking the benz either. This doctor is doing just fine, but my loans, my daycare costs, my husband’s tuition don’t exactly add up to us living a life of uncontrolled excess people!

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Nicki

You are sooo right! I really can’t stand when people get in other people’s business like that for one, but then act all righteous as well! It’s just stupid and ridiculous!!

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JustMe

Don’t hate. CONGRATULATE!!!!

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Lisa

Where’s the hate for movie stars and ? Why is no one demanding Tom Cruise give half his income to charity? Why don’t we demand Alex Rodriguez give back, to make up for making $29 million dollars off the backs of lowly NYers who pay to see him play?

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Lisa

Um, that first sentence should have “an professional athletes” after the “and.” I AM A DUM.

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Amber

Who gives a crap what the guy spends his money on. And he’s an attorney? Big whoop. For all we know he may have borrowed a suit to be on the show and does a lot of work pro bono. People need to get off of their asses and f’n WORK if they want money and keep their noses out of everyone else’s financial business. Damn!

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Kristen

I remember when you told me the things your CEO (I believe it was your CEO?) had done for some of your employees, and it literally brought me to tears that night as I tried to catch up to your drunkenness over the phone. CEO does not always translate to “cheapskate who scams off those who work for them to make themselves richer.”

I don’t think any of that was grammatically correct, but you feel me? I know you do, guurl. Anyway. That story gave me hope for humanity. People are judgy, and being judgy is super lame.

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