Working mother guilt? I have zero.

by Meredith on June 24, 2015

Women always ask me this cringe worthy question:

So… Where are your kids right now? Who is watching them?

Sometimes it’s packaged differently.


I don’t know how you do it. How do you juggle owning a company and spend time with your family? 


Your husband must be a saint. Does he mind that you have to travel for work? He doesn’t care that you went on a girls’ weekend with your friends? 


Do you think I left my kids at home alone with cartoons turned on? Do you think my husband is a moron? Do you think that because I work I don’t know what is going on with them? Are you implying that I’m letting my family slip through the cracks? Are you suggesting that our nanny is a better mother to them than me?

Yes, yes, yes… you are.



I’ve been noticing that my friend, Brittany Gibbons, is often asked these same questions during press interviews about her wildly successful book. Even the damn press wants to know, “Great job writing a NY Times best selling book and being on a book tour and all, BUT WHO IS RAISING YOUR CHILDREN?!

SHE WROTE A BOOK, and her kids are still alive. I know. It’s a miracle. Those kids are so lucky. That was a squeaker. Her husband must be a saint to be married to a NY Times Best Selling Author. Gosh, life must be sooooo hard for him.

Brittany handles these questions with grace and responds with things like, “It takes a village! I have great parents and a very supportive husband.”

Why is she defending herself as a mother? Successful men never have to discuss childcare. Like, ever. NEVER.

Nowadays, nearly half of all mothers work full-time. This is up 30% since 1979. Back in 1979, my mother worked full-time. And look at me! I turned out great. I never once felt neglected, and there was a point during my childhood when she attending night school to earn her Master’s degree.

I felt proud of her. I still do.

Working mother’s are not hindering the development of their children. Multiple studies have been done on the matter, and I have yet to find one that tells us all to stay at home. For example, in 1955 this big 8-year study was done by Judith Warner. Warner found “no significant differences in school performance, psychosomatic symptoms, or closeness to their mothers between working and nonworking mothers”.

The same study was done again in the 1970’s, only this time they controlled factors like daycare quality, class, and ethnicity. Still? Nada. No correlation.

So they did the study again in 1988 and again in 1996. And still “there were no significant differences in intelligence, language, social skills, or attachment” for children of working moms and nonworking moms.

Listen, Lindas. Women who work are not ruining their children or family dynamics. Every time a woman pulls the little BUT WHERE ARE YOUR CHILDREN?! dig on another woman, our gender takes a step back in the world. It’s a woman on woman crime.

Stop asking me how I do it all. Stop asking other women how they do it all. Worry about your own family. The working mother guilt discussion is getting old.


The Last Day

by Meredith on June 12, 2015

Hey Kendra,

It’s Friday morning, and you’re probably reading this before your LAST RADIATION TREATMENT! But I’m actually writing this in the middle of the night, last night. It’s about 1:00am. I should be sleeping, but fuck it. I really want to tell you something, and I can’t sleep until I get this off my chest.

So here it goes.

Thank you for beating this.

You don’t know this, but I’ve been lying to you for the past year. I’ve been smiling to your face, looking you in the eye, and spewing mouthfuls of lies in your direction.

I didn’t actually know if you would be okay.

My mouth would move and the words, “You’re going to beat this,” would fall out. But my brain was running this continuous loop of, “What if it spreads? Why her? What if I lose my best friend?”

That is so incredibly selfish of me. But it’s all I could think about.

I know you thought I was showing up to Chemo Fridays to be a good friend to you, but mainly I just needed you near me.

Because I didn’t know how many more times I would have you near me.


Cancer is scary shit.

So while you were being brave and awesome… I was constantly and silently praying, “Please, Lord, please. Please don’t take her away from me. Thank you for healing her. Thank you for letting me keep her.”


I also want to tell you that I promised Jesus you would start going to church with us if He made you better. #PowerOfPrayer

Just kidding.

I’m really happy with you today. I’m extraordinarily proud of you. Thank you for fighting so hard. Thank you for letting me be near you all the time. I truly don’t know what I would do without you.

Let’s never do this again.

Onward and upward,



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